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Our three year old plays a lot of Minecraft, he started off watching me play survival mode and I'd occasionally point him in the right direction sometimes get him to chop a tree down or dig a tunnel. Now he's flying about the place in creative mode and getting up to some proper mischief like breaking holes in the tops of villagers houses, filling them with water and then pouring loads of fish in, or digging a huge pit, filling it with rabbits and then pushing a villager in and laughing.

 

The other day he befriended a wolf, got it on a lead and named it Felix. Then it accidentally drowned when it got caught under a block of dirt when he was crossing a stream. He was heartbroken and needed a big hug.

 

He kills the animals when he's in a bad mood, but we tell him off when he does it. Once he built a tiny concrete enclosure above the sea and filling it with pigs to the point where there was so many packed in that they couldn't move. Then he knocked a hole in the bottom and watched them cascade into the sea at which point the number of pigs and the number of bubbles they were making paddling about caused the frame rate to crater to about 1 frame every 2 seconds and I had to sit holding backwards on the pad for about five minutes until he'd got far enough away that the game could recover.

 

Another time he built a "gun tank" which was just a massive tower with a couple of dispensers on top that fired pork chops in to a nearby swamp. Then he built a little house on top of it "in case I get tired firing my gun tank".

 

He watches youtube videos of Minecraft (under supervision!) which I think is where he picks up how some of these things work, he's constantly surprising me. I have no idea if any of this is a good idea but he can navigate with dual analogue sticks like a pro now and build little houses and stuff.

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My wife's been pretty goddamn against me introducing videogames to the boy. I think she's more concerned about the compulsive addiction thing than the content, though obviously that would come into it at some point. Anyway, we finally (age 5) have broken her down thanks to Labo, the kid built the motorcycle with me and he's enjoying that. Mario Kart next I reckon. He's also had some time on Forza Horizon with me in the past, it is a safe enough bet. 

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10 hours ago, K said:

to explain some Marvel lore around Spiderman’s rules around killing enemies. Although it is admittedly hard to justify why the baddies are still alive after I’ve just kicked them off the roof of a thirty story building.

 

They are alive though, go follow one after you kick him off. He’ll be webbed to the side of the building. Delayed safety web is I think what I claimed to my wife..

 

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On 27/01/2019 at 16:54, Nobuo's Organ said:

I recently had to enable Family View on Steam after my kids discovered Just Cause 3 while they were logged on to play Roblox.

 

I told them they could drive and fly around all they want, but all my 5 year-old daughter wanted to do was gun down every bad guy she could find (while shouting "have you got any last woooords?" at them). She was having so much fun hiding in the bushes and tethering cars/people to things too :lol: Once the wife caught wind of the gunishment, that was that.

 

Man, you raised her right. Props, bro.

 

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(while shouting "have you got any last woooords?" at them)

 

I am crying with laughter at the mental picture I have of that. Edit: yes, that would make me a terrible parent. But a great uncle...

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Thanks to this place, I bought Titanfall 2 in the PSN £4.99 sale.  My son thought it looked cool and I played the intro level with him.  Next day I’m at work and get a message from the wife 

 

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I’m not sure Harry should be playing this game it’s a bit violent and some bloke just said “Oi leave those corpses alone you sick bastard”!!!!! 

 

I get home, Harry is sulking because he can’t play his “stompy robot game” and I’m getting an earful about not checking the game properly.  Then my daughter pipes up that ‘he’s been playing GTA V and running the Police over’ on the PS3 upstairs!  That was a fun Saturday afternoon.

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15 hours ago, Gord said:

 

yes but @elmo, and im saying this as long time listener of joypod and the not quite as good sequel tcgs, you were clearly damaged by these experiences. :P

I used to love Joypod :) Really helped have a chuckle on my commute.

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6 hours ago, Gord said:

It's pegi 16. 

 

So is SW Battefront, but that doesn’t have blood, exploding bodies and skulls flying about.

 

to be fair, we had been doing the ‘he’s just driving about with the sound off, it’s fine’ thing with GTA, and obviously completely forgetting that he’s getting older and isn’t an idiot so knows exactly what he can do in GTA :doh:

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I self-imposed a 'no guns' rule on the games my five year-old plays. I relaxed that for the Lego games, though, although he doesn't seem interested in that side of things too much. I don't think he'll be on anything more violent than that yet, though.

 

Aside from that, I've introduced him to Sonic & All Stars Racing Transformed and Burnout Paradise (which he calls Crashy Car) which he liked but hasn't really gone back to over Lego. Does GTA have a mod which removes all the violent stuff? Seems a great one to mess about in if only you didn't have to mow down pedestrians.

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Not a parent, but uncle. About 10 20 years ago in the era of PSOne my nephew aged 10 was obsessed with my gaming habits which meant when his parents came to visit I'd be "stuck' with the nephew. Nice kid and I have enough games to show to entertain him for ages, but he always focused on horror/violent games. Stuff like Resident Evil, Parasite Eve, Dino Crisis and The Suffering. I didn't feel very comfortable showing him that, but at the same time who am I to tell him no all the time. So I found a balance: some violent stuff, some other (from platforming to racing).

 

Once I asked his uncle about how he felt about those violent games I showed and he bluntly told me "as long as it's not porn it's fine".

Ok kid, I do not make the rules so go play all the horror games you want. You dad approves.

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7 hours ago, Gizamaluke said:

My 3 year old is obsessed with Transformers Devastation, which I'm happy about cos it's great fun.

 

Yeah, my nephew used to play that a bunch - drop the difficulty, show them the basic autocombos and let them go nuts. :) 

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Just now, Qazimod said:

 

Yeah, my nephew used to play that a bunch - drop the difficulty, show them the basic autocombos and let them go nuts. :) 

 

Yep, exactly that. Then he hands the pad to me for the hard bits which I smash through in seconds and looks at me like

 

ColossalPowerfulJaguarundi-small.gif

 

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2 hours ago, df0 said:

About 10 years ago in the era of PSOne 

 

Nobody tell him it’s 20 years ;)

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Further Minecraft adventures. Today he found a baby zombie and announced "that is my friend, I will look after it". When I looked back at the TV a minute later the baby zombie is being smacked about by an iron golem I'm guessing he built to protect it. The zombie died before I could fully process what was happening. I looked over and he was just holding the pad loosely, eyes wide, his bottom lip quivering.

 

He was fine again a few minutes later, spotted a Dolphin and announced "I will look after that dolphin"...

 

(the dolphin survived being looked after) 

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I introduced Arms to my two kids (5 and 7). Now one of them will spontaneously sing the theme tune and then they start belting each other until me or my wife dare to step in...

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We have screen time rules for the six year old. Gaming-wise it’s Mario Kart or Let’s Go Pikachu. We always sit with him when he plays. 

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1 hour ago, timdp said:

We have screen time rules for the six year old(unless the wife’s out). Gaming-wise it’s Mario Kart or Let’s Go Pikachu. We always sit with him when he plays. 

I think some of your post got deleted - I’ve fixed it for you ;-)

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I'm actually really glad that my ex is a bit useless, I don't know how I'd have copes with someone not wanting the kids to play at all. Mine have been holding controllers and playing stuff since their hands were too small to reach all the buttons.

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My kids are a bit older than the average in this thread (13 & 10) but both are turning into pretty serious gamers. I'm so proud.

 

At their Mum's they have the spare bedroom with a PS4 for each of them. They used to argue constantly over who's turn it was when they had to share so we took the easy way out. Fortnite is the one thing they play the most and they have a ridiculous amounts of wins each. Around 150 for the youngest and 300 for the eldest. They've both carried me to victory on more than one occasion. The eldest also plays a fair bit of Black Ops 4 and loves pointing out he has more blackout wins than me.... He also plays Rainbow Six Siege, although I think him and his friends spend most of their time team killing each other when they play that rather than actually trying to win.

 

They have some not so friendly rivalry going on between them and often rib each other over who is the biggest sweat (sweaty try hard). :lol:

 

Yes, I am a terrible parent.

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On ‎28‎/‎01‎/‎2019 at 07:31, elmo said:

Don’t know what all the fuss is about when I was a kid I played soldier of fortune. Only the first level over and over again so I could shoot off the arms first and all that. Had to take photos of the screen on my dads camera back then. Explain to the people in Boots that it was just a game. Played grand theft auto and just drove on the pavement (sidewalk they call it). Sure if a game had a flame thrower then I’d get a bit hard but who didn’t? I liked it when characters got crushed. It’s good that graphics have got better imo so you can see more stuff never did me any harm. Turned my sisters house in The Sims into a torture chamber. All in good fun obviously. Manhunt was my favourite. Used to play it in the park with my mates. Kids can handle this stuff mate.

Having listened to a couple of hundred hours of you on your podcast I am not so sure that kinds can handle it

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My son is only 18 months old but he loves running into the room where my retro setup is to explore all of the different "buttons!". He'll pick up a random controller and have a bit of a press. I just need to be careful that he doesn't run back out of the room with the controller still in his hand as he doesn't seem to grasp the concept of wired pads.

 

He also loves opening my small cupboard to rummage through what little of a retro collection I have left, checking out the pictures on the covers and stuff. I really wish I still had a decent enough collection at times.

 

He can't really play much all that well just yet besides Tekken 2, or anything else where you can remotely get by on one button. He'll usually just resort to putting the pad in his mouth.

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As the father of a two-year-old, I feel conflicted. I don't want to go into details, but there was a tragedy in my family when I was nine years old due to gun violence, and that obviously had an influence on how I interacted with media as I was growing up. Still, I was allowed to play any game; more violent video games were met with a frown, but nothing was forbidden or banned.

 

Puzzle games became my favorite genre, but although I think that what happened to me influenced my taste in games, it's more due to other reasons. FPS games in particular have never appealed to me. I played through normal in GoldenEye, and the last FPS I played was the multiplayer mode in Perfect Dark--but I stopped due to motion sickness.

 

Still, I must admit that there's something in me that dislikes the notion of violence in media. I understand that violence is the most common method of resolving conflict in video games, and even the likes of Advance Wars or Mario are built upon violence, no matter how cartoon-like they might present it. I don't want to ban video games (violent or otherwise) from my home, but at the same time I don't want to present the idea to my son that violence (and gun violence in particular) is natural and a good way to solve problems.

 

I'm trying not to say here that games are worse in comparison to other media. I know that I will have to talk with my son about violence throughout his childhood. But I am less certain about what to do when he starts getting interested in games.

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