We've frequently danced around the topic of who hated TLJ and why they hated it, so without wishing to state the obvious, let's pin this down. There are different types of people who hated TLJ:
Group 1: There is a loud minority who hated it because of reasons relating to toxic masculinity. Rey is bad because [insert reason using logic that somehow doesn't apply to male lead characters in Star Wars], Rose is the worst thing in the Star Wars universe, Holdo bad - Poe good, and so on. These are the incels.
Group 2: There is also a bigger proportion, but still thankfully a minority overall, who are the 'real fans' of Star Wars. They think that Star Wars plotlines need to work in a specific way related to how Star Wars works in their heads; based on a formula derived from the original trilogy. JJ adhered to this formula, RJ didn't. Phrases such as "RJ / Disney fucked us over, we will never forgive them" etc. are common with this group. They take this stuff extremely personally, they feel betrayed, they won't forgive or forget. These are the toxic entitled fans.
Group 3: Finally, and I'm sure the majority of TLJ haters, there's a group who just didn't like the film for a variety of reasons that aren't the above. Which is of course perfectly fine. They felt the plot wasn't up to much, they felt that consistency in a trilogy is super important, they felt that certain scenes were bad and sunk an otherwise OK movie, and so on.
It's important to note of course that the above is a Venn diagram, some twerps occupy two or three areas of TLJ hate. But let's not deny the first two minority positions exist. They do. Not everyone is from group 3.
If you are in group 3 of TLJ haters, you might need to make peace with the fact that you hate something that a bunch of weird / awful people also hate. If you loved TLJ, you need to know that the Venn diagram exists and also understand that those haters exclusively in group 3 are, in fact, perfectly decent people.